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6 TYPES OF TOXIC PEOPLE..

  When you find no solution to a problem,  its probably not a problem to be solved,  but a truth to be accepted .  - Unknown..  THE ENERGY DRAINER                                                                                                    They make you feel tense.                    They put you down for no reason.                                   Can't be happy for other's good fortune.                  THE PESSIMIST     Talks down to you to make themselves feel better. Only cares about themselves. Tries to talk you out of our dreams.  THE MANIPULATOR                                                                      Tries to control everything.                                       Pretends to be like you & other people.                   Wants to make every decision for  themselves    & others.              THE VICTIM  Blames others for their misfortune. Constantly seeks attention from others. Talks mostly about their  excuses for failing.                

THINGS YOU SHOULD LET GO OF RIGHT NOW !!

Your parents programmed you the best way they knew. It is up to you to reprogram yourself as many times as needed, until you finally meet you.  While you are at it, reprogram them too.                   - Nansia Movidi   💫 WORRYING ABOUT THE PAST . 💫 WORRYING ABOUT THINGS YOU CANT CHANGE . 💫 BEING IN YOUR OWN COMFORT ZONE.   💫 THE NEED TO CONTROL EVERYTHING.  💫 COMPARING YOURSELF TO OYHER PEOPLE. 💫  EXCUSES 💫  JEALOUSY  💫  GRUDGES 💫 FEAR OF UNKNOWN. 💫 TRYING TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY.  💫 A JOB YOU HATE. 💫 CLUTTER IN YOUR HOME.  💫 FAILURE TO CARE FOR YOU HEALTH.  💫 WORRYING WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU.  💫 UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. 

We all want to live a good life. But what makes a good life?
I'd argue that a good life is a life of adventure.

Living an Adventurous Life

  I read an  article   a while back about what makes a good life. It says that an important element of a good life is something called “psychological richness.” Here is an excerpt: According to this view, a good life is one that is interesting, varied and surprising—even if some of those surprises aren’t necessarily pleasant ones. In fact, the things that make a life psychologically rich may actually make it less happy in the ordinary sense. After all, to put it bluntly, a happy life can also be boring. Adventures, explorations and crises may be painful, but at least they’re interesting. I agree with this view. In Tim Ferriss’ words, “The opposite of happiness is boredom.” The opposite of happiness is not a bad event; it’s  boredom . Even if everything seems to go well, without some “richness” it’s not exactly the kind of life that I want to live. So what would define a good life? In my opinion,  a good life is a life of  adventure . The word “adventure” implies doing something new. It

Why do we compare our life to that of others?

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I got the answer to the above question in a lay man's language.  Comparision makes you think that you are either inferior or superior.  These are the two complexes. Remember that you are a unique person. A rose can't be compared with a lotus. A rose has its own fragrance and beauty. It is appreciated for itself.  When you compete, you are trying to prove yourself better than the others or at least equal to them. You do so because you think you are lesser in some way.  Why should women compete with men? They have unique qualities. Every person, man or woman, has a special talent and ability. Do what you're good at doing. There is no need for competition. By competition, you are creating stress for yourself. You must recognize your own ability, gift, talent, and potential.  Empower yourself. Be confident. An illiterate person may paint a masterpiece that will be recognized one day. Have patience.  Sometimes we compare ourselves with others out of jealousy, and sometimes out o

How can we live in the present without remembering the past and without having Anxiety of the future?

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You can't! You will not forget the past. And you will remain anxious about the future. The wise way is to learn from past experiences. You cannot wipe out the memory, but you can learn the right lessons from them. My experience taught me this. The year I studied very well, I passed with good marks in the examination. The year I did not, the result was there to see! Just learn your lessons from the past and let go; then the past will not continue to haunt you.  In the same way, you can handle the anxiety about the future. The future is always uncertain, so there is bound to be some anxiety. However, that anxiety should be used to fortify yourself. When I have to catch a flight, I start early to make allowances for traffic jams and other delays. Some amount of anxiety or apprehension may still be there, but you should not have a nervous breakdown. That will only make matters worse. In the army, they say: The more you sweat in peace, the less you bleed in war. War is always uncertain,

Why do we blame others for our misfortune?

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 In fact, it is you who should answer this! If it is your misfortune, why should you blame someone else? Every one of us is required to do two things in life - we have to face challenges that come our way and build our life. And the responsibility lies on our shoulders alone. No one can live another person's life, not even our near and dear ones. Others can help, but your life will have to be lived by you, and my life has to be lived by me. Each one of us has the freedom to make our choices and act accordingly. Then why should we blame anybody else? The blame game is only to escape our responsibilities.  The other day, I read a joke. The husband sat down to eat his food. He found that there was too much salt in the vegetable dish. He asked his wife why it was so. The wife was very wise. She said, "I have put the same amount of salt as I put every day; it is you who has brought fewer vegetables today. So the fault lies with you!!" She would not accept her mistake and apolo